There was a lot of anger at that time that was causing reacting and not responding. Anger from my perspective is an effort to control a situation or person. I do not call anger an emotion and instead call it a tool. Don’t get me wrong there are emotions around anger. Let’s say I was frustrated, irritated, scrutinized, lied to, told no when I desperately wanted a yes response. Those emit emotions that lead to an anger reaction. The anger reaction is an effort to intimidate to get what I wanted in the first place; hence, a tool. So to be responsible anger had to be replaced with diplomacy or just admitting to being wrong.