If you wanted to hurt their feelings then you know how to do that, with your ego. You justify your actions and or words and don’t take responsibility for your behaviors. Then you think you are strong and proud of yourself for setting them straight until your significant other rips you another you know what and you have to apologize. Or you wake up and realize how bad you messed up and have to apologize. Then when you avoid the issue you are avoiding the relationship altogether. After that decision, the interactions are changed forever and the relationship is changed forever and not for the better, or discarded, DAH.